I woke up on Sunday wondering about the level of frustration in our land. Everyday you encounter people who get agitated over little things; an obvious result of frustration. This got me thinking that if care is not taken, we might be having spates of suicide all over the place. So, I just put up a post on my wall that morning admonishing that Suicide is not an option. It was a shock for me to hear later in the afternoon that a woman jumped off the Lagos 3rd mainland bridge into the lagoon.
There were many speculations about what could have led her to take that option; some opined she was probably jinxed. Others thought she was in gross debt. Opinions flew around until stories emerged few days after.
She was reported to have been a victim of blackmail. A lover she was having an adulterous affair with was said to have swindled her to the tune of N10 million. She reported him to the Police and the man refuted the allegation insisting she gave him willingly being lovers. He was said to have even released nude pictures of both of them on the internet to support his claim. The husband saw those pictures and conducted DNA tests on their three children and none was his. What next? She felt death is better than shame and chose suicide.
It is a fact that there is always a build up to suicide. Those who do it believe it is the only way out. Unfortunately it is a terrible thing to do. I am sure they usually find out too late! The Holy books and the nations’ Constitutions condemn it.
Dwelling on the aforementioned woman’s case, is it that she could not live without the husband or she could not face the world again? What about her people (who of course are the loser as the husband will remarry) Did her own people cast her out after the incident even when it was obvious she was moving towards the cliff edge? Should there have been a place in the husband’s heart to forgive her? Many questions begging for answer. I hope to have a feedback from my readers. Please say something, it might encourage other families.
She is the founder of Cassandra's Diary, a forum for trashing out issues in families.
Married to Dele, they are blessed with 3 children, Temi, Tolu and Alexandra.
In summary, my team and I, we are counselors and public speakers with a passion to raise model families.