RAISING BOLD CHILDREN
Raising bold children is a task all parents must strive to accomplish. I have come across children who would have been very great and a blessing to their generation going down the drain because of timidity. Timidity is even like saying it lightly; many of them are actually suffering from low self esteem.
It is a fact that children differ from one another that no two children are the same. Where one is weak might be the strength of another. Like adults, they don’t like being compared with someone else. You begin to batter the emotions of a child the moment you start talking down on him. Making him feel like a never do well.
One of the ways to build confidence in children is to be their cheerleader. Hype their little achievements. Appreciate the little efforts they put up as a child. A little child fetches water with a bowl and spills majority of it messing up the floor; the reaction is not to get worked up. Commend the child and teach her better ways of doing it.
In every human, there is something unique. Begin to discover your child’s own at a tender age. When you discover it, take time to acquire knowledge on it in order to guide him towards his potentials.
A child having issues with academics needs help and not running down. We all talk about Ben Carson and his mother. How many of us are trying to acquire the patience and understanding of his mother. Remember some children need more attention and patience than others. You must be able to separate properly.
If everyone thinks your child is a “dunce,” you are his last hope. You are his cheerleader who is to let him know he can do it. If your shoulders are not there for him, you may seal his destiny negatively without knowing.
Learn to make each of your children feel like a Prince to you. When it is time to correct, do it in love and explain why you did so and why you will still do so again if he errs.
Allow your children to express themselves no matter how little. Gone are the days when children look at the ground when addressing elders. These days, they need to speak with head held high (it is not called pride, it is confidence).
Note that children deserve some respect from their parents. It is wrong to talk to them in a derisive manner in front of your friends or theirs. That way, you embarrass them and naturally, they begin to lose confidence and feel resentment towards you.
For instance, a grown up child who still bedwets and the mother begins to abuse her in front of people. That child will be so battered emotionally to the level of self low esteem. It may get so bad, she begins to think “I am not good for anything.” Some parents will even be telling her ” who will marry a bedwetter?” This might be the beginning of suicide thoughts if care is not taken.
Remember, every child is unique, you only need to discover your child’s own.
She is the founder of Cassandra's Diary, a forum for trashing out issues in families.
Married to Dele, they are blessed with 3 children, Temi, Tolu and Alexandra.
In summary, my team and I, we are counselors and public speakers with a passion to raise model families.