At a programme one time, I spoke about the wrapper tying woman and I have this strong burden to discuss it on this platform.
Many ladies dress prim and proper, as Slay mamas, dress to kill etc when they are still single. The man admires the different styles and is sure he has chosen a presentable woman. This trend continues during the honeymoon. She has carefully chosen those clothes that will seduce him and make the honeymoon worthwhile. Alas! The stylish woman disappears sometime into the marriage, like one who has attained the prize.
The man goes into the world everyday seeing different types of dressing from daughters of eve. However, what happens at home? You still buy latest clothes, still dress stylishly but your husband never gets to see it. How? You may wonder.
Your husband leaves home very early while you are yet to dress for work. Due to the nature of your work, he comes in much later than you. By the time he comes in the evening, you have undressed after the day’s work, with your wrapper around you, you have jumped into the kitchen, cooked for the family and showered for the night coolly clad in your wrapper for comfort. All the trendy clothe, waist trimmers, firm bra are all gone. You have loosed them and let them go. Even your expensive hair (Brazilian or Peruvian) are under the hair net. The man only gets to see these things on other ladies in the office. You also only look trendy for your colleagues and never for your husband.
Fellow ladies, sacrifice is the key. I know how much you want to quickly get home and pull it off (sometimes we even start the pulling off from the car) But you can endure a little by keeping your office look for him to see. Even if twice or thrice on a week. After all, on weekends that he is at home, you are likely to be in wrapper too even for parties.
I know a man that will stray will stray no matter what you do. Just do your best and your conscience will be clear that you did well.
She is the founder of Cassandra's Diary, a forum for trashing out issues in families.
Married to Dele, they are blessed with 3 children, Temi, Tolu and Alexandra.
In summary, my team and I, we are counselors and public speakers with a passion to raise model families.