Recently, I saw a preacher online talking about the mode of dressing at the royal wedding. He noted how everybody covered their body including the celebrities! Even film stars from Hollywood.
This got me thinking about the trend these days. Weddings have become an avenue to ‘flaunt’ bodies. Guests try to outdo one another in the game of nudity including the bride! Gone are the days when brides covered up everywhere including their faces and guests had to stretch necks eagerly to have a glimpse of what the bride looked like.
The preacher said there must have been a dress code sent out by the royal family. I can’t dispute that going by the antecedent of the Queen. She is always decently dressed. Always covered up even with the hands covered in gloves. Someone once pointed out that people claim females can’t help wearing trousers abroad because of the weather, but the Queen has never worn trousers despite the weather.
Going further, the preacher opined that some of the stars (celebrities) did not attend the wedding because “nakedness” was not allowed.. This brought to my mind, the question of identity. Who are you? Majority of people have identity problem; the reason they want to be like some of the so called stars. They want to dress, talk and behave like them. They look up to people who don’t have any moral value except popularity.
Thank God for some churches who still insist that the brides should bring wedding dress to church for scrutiny before the wedding day. But then, some bridal train and guests still come to church half naked. And these days, brides have different dresses for the reception so they won’t have their bridal dance in the ‘drab’ dress approved by the church.
When you define who you are. You will be able to define what is expected of you, which culture suits you; God’s culture or Pop culture. Imagine people who are sane wearing torn clothes in the name of fashion. These are clothes that used to be the sole preserve of mad men just few years ago. If a celebrity wears it, then it must be right. When you define yourself, you then define who should be your mentor or your role model. What value does he add to you?
It is time to build up your self esteem and hold your head high. Define your identity, define on which side of the divide you are. Are you standing up to be identified as a child of God or you want to be carried away by the river of life.
She is the founder of Cassandra's Diary, a forum for trashing out issues in families.
Married to Dele, they are blessed with 3 children, Temi, Tolu and Alexandra.
In summary, my team and I, we are counselors and public speakers with a passion to raise model families.